Over 4 years of work in LarisasLadies we have met a lot of people eager to find their love. Daily I devote attention to our clients not only in technical support but in heart matters too. All single hearts want the same – to get married, create family, become happy. Although not everybody find happiness quickly due to different reasons. Today I would like to share with you 5 Things I've Learned From Working in Online Dating:
1. Be yourself
The most common concern people have is that people won’t like them. Everyone has a fear of rejection. This is completely natural. For that reason you alter peoples’ perceptions of you with perfect photos and sugar-coated profile. If you try to paint the picture that you think others want to see, you will probably attract an incompatible match. Instead, you should show your true nature. People will warm up to you much better if you show how multifaceted you really are. Don’t be afraid to show your vices. It is easy to recognize if you’re genuine or not, so there is no point in trying to fool anyone. Just be honest and yourself. This approach will put you much further than if you fabricate who you are.
2. Strife for meeting
Communicating online is always comfortable. You can do it from anywhere and at any time. It feels safe. A common mistake people make is that they chat online for too long. They share things about themselves, person they are looking for and get into in depth discussions. My best advice is to avoid all deep chats until you meet in person. Instead of having these long conversations, try to keep it short and just insist on meeting up in person. A talk over coffee will tell you much more whether you get on with the person or not. If you are uncertain where to meet and what to do on your first date, I advise you an “activity date”. If possible, go to zoo, go bowling, take a walk in your local park with a take-away coffee to make your date easy.
3. No time - is not an excuse
People always tell us that they really want to find a second half. What’s stopping them? They explain that they don’t have time to get into online dating. I am sure if you really want something, you will definitely find time to get it. If you really want to find a lady of your dreams, you will find a way to meet her. So if you’re in serious mood, you should just do it! You need to wait for a while and trust me, it’s worth it. Search for your life partner is one of the most important decisions you make in your life.
4. Expressly understand what you want
It’s important to appoint three ‘adverse factors’ and three ‘binding criteria' before using online dating services. Online dating has many intricacies that should be taken into account. For example, you can meet a wrong person because of outlook on life, goals or religious views. First steps may fail, and you can get frustrated. Bad shot is not a reason to give up meeting “the one”!
5. Choose photos that tell your personal story
A big part of online dating centers around your persona. You have a chance to paint a picture of who you are - describe your personality, interests and highlight your goals. It’s very important to choose photos that align with and what you’re looking for. If you are a homebody and like to hang out with your pet, why then you post a photo of yourself at a party? It just doesn’t make any sense. You might look stunning in that photo but it will surely send the wrong message, and it could potentially attract the wrong person. Make sure you conform with your brand at dating website. Remember, all the elements of your profile should tell a story that attracts right people in your search.
Happy Dating!